Congratulations to our very own DQ, who got married 12/12/12, a date chosen because it’s the last date with three consecutive numbers and it will never repeat again in our lifetime. We thought we’d interview his lovely new wife, Jeanne, about their special day. I went to the wedding -she looked stunning and wore four dresses! I have never been to a wedding with such an amazing wardrobe. You can check out all of their wedding photos from the Kaptur they created of their special day here.
How did DQ pop the question?
It was a warm, sunny Saturday afternoon in August. We drove out for another one of those weekend road trips. This time he told me to dress up. I picked out a green cocktail dress and got all dolled up for the evening. He drove me to the middle of New Jersey saying he had a surprise in store for me. The roads felt unfamiliar to me and all I saw was farms and vast land, it was like a kidnap scenario in the movies. I wondered what the surprise was and was super excited—since I love surprises! When we arrived we parked the car by the parking lot and I saw a Spanish restaurant in sight. I had to use the bathroom and then saw a bunch of people chatting outside the bathroom window. I thought to myself and was wondering if he brought all our close friends to do a surprise party for me. But I was wrong, when I came out of the bathroom; he took my hand and walked me to the back of the restaurant. Low and behold, we were greeted by our host (a couple) that introduced themselves to us, they asked to sign the papers waiving our rights if anything happens and then I realized that I was signing to get on a hot air balloon. I was ecstatic, it was my first time on a hot air balloon ride and I was scared and excited at the same time—with heels on! Other people were going on a hot air balloon too! Except on a different one. We had a balloon all to ourselves in addition to the hot air balloon driver. We quickly filled up the balloon together with hot air, got into the basket and were the first team in the group to take off. I was very nervous and held on to anything I could grab my hands on because I’m afraid of heights. As we got up higher and higher, about 1,000 feet up in the air, he played Canon in D on his iPhone setting the mood of the ride. As we started admiring the view from the flight, the driver of the hot air balloon said there is a nicer view on the other side, and I step over to the other side to see and he told me to look down. I glimpsed down for a second and noticed that it’s a black banner with white letter and two pink hearts (one on each side of the banner). I finally read the question clearly and started blushing and smiling with joy. The banner read “Will you marry me?” I was silent and shocked for a moment. Then he got down on one knee and pulled out a box and opened it. It was the engagement ring we had picked out months ago. I was expecting the proposal soon but not in such a thoughtful and unique way. It was flawless and felt like one of the themes from a Korean drama—something I would watch on television happened right before my eyes.
You had a lot of guests at the wedding, which was in a perfect wedding venue, The Grand Prospect Hall. Did your guests travel far? And why did you choose that venue?
A majority of our guests were close friends, co-workers, and family and relatives that lived in New York. We chose the wedding venue because it was big, beautiful and convenient for all our guests. I was watching television one day at a member firm I was regulating for work and noticed the commercial for The Grand Prospect Hall. The commercial looked so elegant and beautiful because they showed off the Victorian style ballroom with color lights and balcony. It’s like nothing I’d ever seen in my life. The Grand Prospect Hall is a historic site that used to be an opera house. We fell in love with the venue at first sight when we set foot there for a tour, and decided to go with this place for our big day. In addition, the wedding planner at The Grand Prospect Hall was experienced, understanding, patient and friendly. He listened to how we imagined our ideal wedding, catered to our needs and made it perfect from planning to execution on the actual day and customized everything the way we want it.
You wore four amazing dresses on your wedding day and DQ had two different suits. Is this tradition? What made you choose four dresses and how did you decide on the colors? More importantly, how did you manage all of the dress fittings?
The dresses were a tradition that we have in Chinese weddings instead of wearing a single dress like in American traditions. The dresses consist of a traditional red Chinese “Qua” that I wore for the tea ceremony pre-wedding, a white dress for the ceremony (walking down the aisle), a white dress with red contour outline the body’s curve for our first dance, a maroon evening gown I chose for the second half of the event (cake cutting and games), and a light blue gown for the cheers to each table and to greet the guests for departure. I chose from a variety of different dresses based on uniqueness of color and design. This was done to entertain the guest, and it represents the wealth of the bride in that she is able to afford so many dresses. This is very common for Asian weddings to reflect their status and it will create a wider variety of style and color composition for wedding photos.
One of Jeanne’s dresses:
Tell us a little bit more about the hosts and the games at the wedding:
We had two hosts, one male and one female at the event that spoke both Cantonese and English to entertain the crowd and to lead the event. One of the games at the wedding was a kissing game where couples imitated an intense kissing position shown on screen. Another was a version of musical chairs where guests passed a napkin around the table to win the centerpiece to take home as a prize. The hosts also danced hip-hop and sang a song to entertain the guests as well.
What other special touches did you incorporate into your special day?
Traditional Chinese-style banquet weddings are held at restaurants that have a golden dragon and phoenix statue on a red velvet backdrop wall. Since we decided to go with an American-style wedding, we decided to keep a small piece of the tradition by incorporating it into an ice-sculpture instead during the cocktail hour and a cute mini wedding topper of a married couple in an old-fashioned red traditional attire (the husband giving the wife a piggy back ride). To match the theme of our wedding, we gave traditional Chinese glass cups with dragon and phoenix as well as other traditional designs for party favors to add a touch of Chinese culture.
For our reception intro, we decided to do the Gangnam Style dance to loosen up the crowd and start the party with a bang! Even though the bridal party didn’t have that much dancing experience, we still managed to pull it off together by practicing the day before and by watching PSY’s Gangnam style music video (a very popular Korean hip hop song). We knew everyone probably knew the song, so we picked this song to get everyone pumping and in an upbeat mood.
The Kaptur Team at the Wedding: